Something I have learned in the past eight years of being with my husband is that jealousy is quite an ugly quality.
I used to be a very jealous girl. I was the type of girl that couldn’t stand for her boyfriend to have any exes as friends. I didn’t like for my boyfriends to call other girls things like “sweetie” or “honey.”
My husband had TONS of girl friends, so when we started dating, it was hard for me to adjust. A lot of his girl friends stopped talking to him because they were scared of me. I was not friendly at all to them.
My husband isn’t a jealous guy, so to get me to understand his point of view, he would play the jealous role and get me to my boiling point. Back then, my husband dropped his exes as friends because he saw a future with me. I am sure that was hard to do, and have no idea how he really dealt with dating such a jealous person.
In some aspects I still am jealous, but I let him have his friends. The girl friends he does have are our mutual friends.
What is your relationship like with your significant other? Are you the jealous type or are you layed back?
Death, taxes, and laundry.
The only sure things in life. Lol
At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, it was hard for me to accept that he played online games and enjoyed things that I always found were “nerdy.” He would spend hours on a computer, with a headset, talking to people who were “in his guild” or “raiding with him.” We went out a lot, but after he would just jump on his online games and be on there for hours.
Fast forward to 8 years later…………..
Yeah.. I enjoy a lot of the things that he enjoys. I play some of the games he plays.
From my experience and in my humble opinion, I like that he’s home and not off doing other things. Everyday, I hear stories of significant others cheating and doing things they shouldn’t be doing.
I feel lucky that my hubby is a bit of a “home-body.” I like the fact that he has his friends over the house more than going anywhere else.
The other day I was lisening to a morning radio show on the way to work and they were talking about this very same subject. All the women that called in, and a few men too, were complaining about the fact that their S.O. was a gamer. I feel the complete opposite now. I’m kinda glad he is!
Please feel free to share your thoughts on the subject!
I know that a lot of people out there are feeling the effects of the economy. I know we are. This type of issue can put stress on any relationship, and it is very important to deal with the problem together. I found this article a while ago, and thought I would post it up for you.
How to Cope With Financial Arguments:
First, the main way to keep financial harmony is communication, communication, communication!
• Couples need to take the time to get to know and understand their partner. What experiences did they have with money growing up? How did their parents value money? Note what similarities and differences there are.
• Discuss future goals and dreams. How can both partners work together to achieve them?
• Know what kind of lifestyle the other is expecting to enjoy.
• When discussing money, only talk about money. Do not use it as an excuse to segue into other, unrelated arguments.
• Find a place or an activity that keeps everyone calm during money discussions, like during a hike, listening to music, or when the kids are asleep.
• Fight on behalf of each other. If there is something the other truly wants, work together to plan a way to make it possible. Otherwise, resentment festers.
• Neither spouse should be afraid to say what they are really thinking.
• Instead of focusing on past debts or issues, look forward. Couples should make a game plan targeting how they will work together as a team to resolve debt and save for the future.
• Couples should agree that they must both agree on major purchases before making them.
• Lastly, get outside, objective help. People are more likely to calmly represent their situation to a financial planner than they will be toward their own spouse.
(Found here: http://familyfinances.suite101.com/article.cfm/fighting_over_money)
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A little bit of advice:
Don’t forget to tell your significant other how you feel about him or her. OFTEN!
Don’t wait until they say it. Life is too short to wait around for things. If you think it, SAY IT. Tell them you love them, tell them you cannot live without them.
Call them up, leave them a text, email them… Tell them!!
Sometimes you forget because you are so caught up in “the routine.”
Let them know you still care about them and think about them, it’ll make a world of difference in how you treat each other.
Have a great one!
So, someone left me a message asking me why I chose to share my personal life on a blog.
In answer to this question, I really don’t have just one reason.
When I got engaged, I was told not to do it. I was told that I was too young and too inexperienced to get married. I was told it wouldn’t last the first year. I didn’t understand what they were talking about because I had already lived with him for 4 years. What was going to be different?
So, I looked online for marriage advice for young people. I looked and looked and looked. I found a bunch of sites with advice about cheating spouses, broken homes, drugs, and all that. What about normal relationship advice??? What about regular relationships where nothing bad goes on? Is that too dull for the internet?
Honestly, I am not writing the blog for anyone but myself. It sounds mean, I hope no one takes offense, but I write it for myself because I know that somewhere out there, there are people that might be going through the same things I am or have been through. Maybe someone is online right this minute looking for that “normalcy” that this blog is offering. Who knows?
I also write this blog because I am excited that people were reading my boring life and sending me messages, agreeing and disagreeing, and just having fun with it. Thanks to everyone, by the way.
So, this is why I started the blog.
It’s kind of a little diary that I happen to share with others. 🙂
The day that my husband picked me up to go on our very first date, my mother told him something that he will never let down.
She stopped him as we were walking out of the house and goes, “Hey… No returns and no refunds. So if you take her now, it’s forever.”
We laughed it off, got in his car, and drove away.
Silly mom! How’d you know?